One-on-one time

I didn’t get to spend the entire holiday with Raziah but i was off with her on Monday, being the last day of holiday. So our day started with taking Ubayd to school (i did consider keeping him home but that would defeat the purpose of spending alone time with Raziah), then we treated ourselves to breakfast and thereafter spent about an hour or so at the local library and then headed back home.

I love spending girly time with Raziah, i feel it is vital for both of us. So we’ll do breakfast or go to the shops or like Monday when we got home, we sat in the same space reading our own books. No speaking, just reading, yet this quiet “activity” was so satisfying for both of us. Even if it’s not for long, just to get some alone time with her.
Being the older and more understanding child, i like to bring myself down to her level and give her that individual attention. We sometimes have lengthy conversations about her friends and what’s happening at school, what interests her lately etc. It is important to know what is happening in their lives as we become so easily consumed in our own lives with work and other things, that we forget to tap in with our kids and find out what’s in vogue in their lives.
The fact that there is a 5 year gap between Raziah and Ubayd, sometimes makes for challenging parenting as they do not share the same interests, watch the same TV shows, play the same games and so on (anyone who has two or more kids with a big age gap, could probably share my sentiments). So I end up playing referee most of the time.
Ubayd is only 5, so he doesn’t have much going on yet, for now he’s all about play and Paw Patrol lol. So his one-on-one sessions consist mostly of playtime at the park with daddy. However, when he speaks, we must be sure to listen attentively as he can tell by body language whether or not we are taking in what he is saying.
By default, Ubayd gets more attention because he is the younger sibling and requires more of our time because of obvious needs. But even though Raziah is older and more responsible (most times), she too is still a child and requires one-on-one attention.Spending one-on-one time with our kids gives them reassurance that we care and take an interest in their lives, and it is important in order for us to be able to perpetuate that openness and keep that line of communication transparent between parent and kid.

Let me know in the comments how you enjoy spending one-on-one time with your precious gems!

Lโ™ฅve,
Fatima

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My developing plant craze!

I’ve recently been drawn to plants. I have this sudden interest in them and the more I’m learning, the more I’m enjoying this new hobby (I think I can call it that). I never thought that I would be planting seeds, re-potting plants, nurturing them and watching them grow. Sounds kinda old people ‘ish right… But I kid you not this plant growing thing makes me happy, it is so therapeutic and gratifying.
I think it’s because of the connection of living organisms on the whole. Plants have purpose, just like us and their benefits are multifold. Some of them purify the air, some have healing properties etc. Plants help humans breathe by providing oxygen and in return, humans help plants breathe by providing carbon dioxide. So it’s kind of like a two-way street. This is the almighty’s magnificent creation. I get so excited when I see a plant progressing!

My mint when i first got it in October 2017
5 months later!
My Oregano is still a baby but it’s growing fast

Thus far I have mint and oregano as herbs (coriander in progress). And i literally use these when I cook (the mint is so yum in cream of brocolli soup) and i get that feel good sensation because i know it’s home-grown! I enjoy mint in my green tea as well. Origano is versatile and can be used on pizza, salads, pasta’s and many other dishes. I have hens and chicks and jade as succulents. These remove toxins and they’re so easy to care for. They require minimal watering which is perfect in drought stricken Cape Town at the moment (May we be blessed with sufficient rainfall soon Ameen). I also have a very sad looking aloe, which I’m trying to revive (i hope it’ll work!) as Aloe has many health benefits. I have an Anthurium as a house plant for decorative purposes but it also assists in purifying the air.

My hen is growing chicks ๐Ÿ™‚ The chicks can be pulled off and re-potted.

Pretty Anthurium! You also find them with red flowers.
I seem to have rubbed off on the kids because on our visit to stodels recently, they asked if they could have some seeds to plant. This was so cute! I love that they are also developing an interest in wanting to get in touch with nature. It would also give them a sense of responsibility when they see that which they are taking care of is growing. I want them to learn to appreciate the beauty that we have been blessed with and be more appreciative of their surroundings. At the same time they can enjoy messing in the soil and getting their hands dirty. So they planted some lavender, and they’ve been checking on it everyday…we’ll see how that progresses

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These are the kids’ lavender that they planted a few days ago. Fingers crossed that they grow!
Even my hubby seems to have latched on (although he denies it lol) to the latest craze in our home. He DIY’d me a wooden planter (additional to my existing one) for the outside plants, I’m so excited to get some plants in it!

Share some of your plant growing journeys with me in the comments section ๐Ÿ™‚

That’s all from me for now! Thank you for reading

Love

Fatima